- Tell your story, but don’t simply speak it through, become aware of what you are saying.
- Remember at all times that you are talking about the mechanism, not about a whole human being. Remember that the program of a computer is not the computer itself. The program can be changed.
- Determine the basic duality.
- Describe all the players of your story and your projections onto them.
- Determine the main pleasure that the mind applies prohibition on, which later on is expressed in guilt and blame, and I such a way elucidate the program of self-destruction.
WHAT IS THE PROGRAM OF SELF-DESTRUCTION?
It is when you start to experience pleasure and unable to experience it to the end due to a prohibition. You can neither inhale nor exhale.
HOW DOES THE PROGRAM OF SELF-DESTRUCTION WORKS?
It attracts the necessary players, and you get attracted to the necessary players. At first, you increase the guilt and blame/self-blame of each other, and then start to fight each other till death.
HOW DOES THE MECHANISM MANIFEST ITSELF?
The mechanism does not allow you to take the responsibility for the situation, because in such a case you will not have the side which you will blame and experience the feeling of guilt.
The mechanism MUST experience guilt. If there is no guilt, the situation exhausts itself. But in order to do that, you need to accept full responsibility, and to see this entire mechanism inside of you, instead of projecting it onto others.
The mechanism is based on pride. You are constantly asking yourself: am I a woman? Am I a man? Am I a mother? Am I handsome? Am I beautiful? etc. and you try to prove it. This happens because of the absence of inner understanding of yourself. Otherwise, you will not have anything to prove.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO ACCEPT A FULL RESPONSIBILITY?
The inner sense of being self-assured comes out of acceptance of full responsibility for one’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. If this acceptance really occurs, you don’t have anyone to blame. In that case, you do not need anyone’s permission. Why do you want to ask someone for permission if you want to be someone? By accepting responsibility, you also take responsibility for all the consequences of your decision. In such case, everyone will make his own choice. That’s full responsibility.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO RUN AWAY FROM RESPONSIBILITY?
Everyone wants to hold on to both this and that at the same time. That leads to eternal run. The power is in responsibility. If I make a certain decision and accept full responsibility for the consequences of it, no one in the external world will condemn me for anything.
The MECHANISM, on the other hand, wants to be punished for what it did: if you are punished, you feel a certain relief. But acceptance of the responsibility brings understanding: if I want to do something, I do it. It is not necessary to experience guilt that leads to desire to be punished.
HOW TO CHANGE THE MECHANISM OF FIGHT?
You can only change it by becoming completely aware of how it works. Otherwise, it will rebuild itself.
WHEN DOES THE EXIT OCCUR?
The exit occurs when the experience is totally accumulated. You can only exit through the center, i.e. the heart.