TGL #22. Other people are your mirrors

We always meet with ourselves. If a thought pops into my head, someone will always reflect it. From this point of view the world is not multitude of people and I, but I am a multitude of people. There are many of us, but we are one.

It is very important to understand that we all are one. Therefore, around me are my mirrors. If you receive a certain reaction of people to you—you created it. Are you ready to accept this point of view on what happens to you or will you continue to accuse and blame others?

To blame others for what you did means to remain in a morass of heavy, mechanical sleep. If people get upset with you, you created their accusation toward yourself. If people insult you, you created these insults. People as mirrors reflect the states you happen to be in but you may not be aware of it.

Other people are your mirrors

— If we were to apply the principle of mirrors, a mirror not only reflects our weak sides, but also our strong sides. How can one figure out where one’s strong side is?  

— Let’s review this question in details. You can have a certain self-identification. We need to figure out how you think about yourself, how you imagine yourself consciously, what you identify yourself with. Do you appraise yourself on a «minus» scale or «plus» scale. Every single human being consciously considers himself or herself negative in certain things. Right? What do you consider yourself to be negative in, i.e. where is your self-identification negative?

— I am lazy.
— A am lazy, and I get angry easily.
— I am short-tempered.

— Look, this is already the beginning of self-investigation. This is not so simple. Most people cannot answer this question right away. But this is necessary in order to start to figure oneself out. A car mechanic knows how a car is built very well. If he does not, he is not a good mechanic.

A human being is a similar mechanical car, but being in this car we don’t know anything about it. This is a paradox. We know about computers. We know about clothes. We know about taxes, and much more, but we don’t know the most important thing. We don’t know how we are made.

So, let’s figure this out. These are the first questions in this direction: «What is your negative identification? » Okay, let’s take laziness for example. A man appears next to you. He is not lazy. He is so not lazy, it makes you nauseous. What does he mirrors you? He mirrors your opposite side.
In this case, this is accepted here as a positive quality. It is generally considered that the active human being is good, but the lazy one is bad. Then he is mirroring your positive side to you, as this positive side happens to be in your sub-consciousness, to use this terminology.

In my terminology, «plus and minus» are technical terms. They are similar to two sides of a car battery: the positive side and the negative side. It does not mean that the positive side is a good side of a battery, while the negative side is bad. Both sides are necessary in order for a battery to work. And here we deal with the same thing. I am not delighted only in the positive side, the negative side is similarly worthy.

This is a different and new point of view. People consider they have to fight to be positive: «I am going to fight myself in order to make myself such and such. I will make myself good». But, I say you don’t have to fight yourself. Any fight only gives birth to a fight. Any fight gives birth to fear and then you will constantly be in this fear.

Fighting you may accomplish something in terms of achieving «goodness», but you will remain in fear. You may have a positive, from your point of view, human being next to you that shows you your sub-consciousness because your conscious notion of yourself is negative.

But you may have it differently. If you appraise yourself positively in something, a human being will appear with an opposite quality. For example, if you are active and goal oriented, you will find your employees passive and lazy, requiring you to fight them all the time. That’s how all companies and organizations are created, starting from family and ending with states. If you are active on the background of these passive, you have this pride: «I am active, they are passive».

— Let’s take a look at you. Let’s assume there was a fusion of consciousness and sub-consciousness in your case. Does it mean that people do not mirror you similarly?  

— People mirror me similarly. People commonly ask me: «Are you enlightened? ». I tell them: «Wait up. Let’s not even talk about it. Enlightenment is a process. It’s not a dot; it is dot after dot after dot ». I noticed that whenever I asserted something in my life, and there was time when I used to say: «Everything is Okay», a situation would appear immediately that would show me: «Here, take a look. Not everything is Okay». It would point to me: «Take a look there again». So, I don’t make any conclusions. I never said that something has fused. It is what it is.

— This process is endless. Someone constantly mirrors something to someone.

— Exactly.

— And where is the difference? Is difference in perception only? Is it in my perception or yours?  

— Take a look at where the difference is. Let’s say you got married and a man you have married is drinking, screams at you, does not bring any money home, and does not take care of the kids. That’s him, your man, your opposite side. What does a sleeping woman wants to do?

— She nags him, blames him, and tries to change him … She makes scenes …

— Yes, they fight tooth and nail. Let’s say this woman came to Pint and started self-investigation. She will begin to understand that what she sees in him is something she does not see in herself, and she will start to search for it inside herself.

If she blames him for not bringing enough money home, she will start seeing: «Wow, I do the same ». That’s what a woman who is not fully asleep anymore, who started to self-investigate will say.

— And what’s next? So, he drinks and she does not. He kicks her, and she does not. Should she start drinking?

— You don’t need to start anything, you already have everything. If it irritates you that your partner is drinking, you have to develop and use a thinking pattern of self-investigator. And that is not as straightforward as it appears to you.

What is alcoholism? Alcoholism represents one’s withdrawal from solving a problem. Why do men drink so hard? It happens because men don’t want to see many things. But a woman uses different methods of withdrawal in order not to see herself, and her methods are similar to man’s alcoholism. She does not drink; she goes to a gym or she goes shopping. From a society point of view, it is much healthier than alcoholism. «I exercise», — she tells him, — «and what do you do? You drink. I don’t want to see you ». But they do exactly the same thing. Are you ready to see it or not?


Take look into your closest mirrors—your relatives and friends. What qualities do they manifest that you disagree with? Apply the paradoxical thought process of self-investigator. Take a look at your friend as your mirror. Ask yourself a question: «In which situations I behave similarly?»



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